Hi Violette,

Thank you for your very thoughtful comment. I did read it and appreciate it, but haven't had a chance to respond.

Regarding your thoughts on subconscious sex, I think that I can accept this framework as a strong possibility to explain the term gender identity, which I also agree is a bit of a misnomer (based on conversations with trans people). The science is interesting, perhaps we will know more in the upcoming years.

When I say I don't feel I have a gender identity, I certainly don't mean to invalidate anyone else's experiences, or their own sense of having a "subconscous sex." I'm simply speaking from the position of having examined my own thoughts about my sex and my body, and I've not connected with the term. But perhaps I will see more, learn more, understand differently at some point in my life.

I respect what you say about coming to the argument from a pragmatic place. I too am now more interested in the practicalities of accommodating both trans women and cis women, and understanding the common enemies that we have. I believe the conversation about who is a woman has become deeply unhelpful. We have to look to find solutions, to work out the kinks, and to balance all claims to rights. I think that this perspective will prevail in the end. I will read your piece and leave you some thoughts in the comments, thank you again.